The holiday season often prompts reflection on the relationships that matter most—our partners, family and close friends. But are you expressing love and gratitude in ways that truly resonate with them? This year, consider exploring the “Five Love Languages” developed by Gary Chapman, PhD.

For over three decades, the Five Love Languages have been part of pop culture, offering a simple yet powerful way to understand how people give and receive love. While not rooted in scientific research, it offers a practical, heartfelt approach to strengthening emotional bonds. It’s less about psychology and more about meaningful conversations: what works, what doesn’t and how we can better support one another.

Here’s an introduction to the Five Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation. Some people feel most loved through verbal appreciation. Compliments, encouragement and affirming phrases like “I’m proud of you,” “I love you,” or “You mean the world to me” can have a deep impact.

Physical Touch. Hugs, cuddles, handholding and a reassuring pat on the back speak volumes to those who value physical closeness. In a world where loneliness is prevalent, touch can be a powerful antidote.

Acts of Service. For some, love is best expressed through helpful actions. Whether it’s running errands, fixing something around the house or simply doing the dishes, these gestures show care and commitment far beyond words.

Receiving Gifts This isn’t about materialism; it’s about thoughtfulness. A surprise bouquet, a handwritten card or a small token of affection can become cherished symbols of love and remembrance. It’s the intention behind the gift that matters most.

Quality Time. Undivided attention is key here. It’s not just about being physically present; it’s about being emotionally available. Meaningful conversations and shared experiences make these individuals feel cared about and important.

Understanding which language speaks loudest to your loved ones can transform your relationships. If your partner thrives on quality time, a quiet evening together may mean more than any wrapped gift. If your friend lights up from words of affirmation, a heartfelt note or text could make their day.

This season, ask yourself: How do the people in my life feel most loved? Maybe your brother values acts of service, but you’ve been focused on giving gifts. Or perhaps your partner craves physical touch, yet you’ve been expressing love through words. These small shifts in awareness can lead to deeper emotional bonds and interactions.

So, as you gather with loved ones, make this season not just about celebration, but about deepening your connections and interactions. Use the Five Love Languages as your guide—not to be perfect, but to be present, curious and open to growth. You may find that your relationships flourish in ways you never anticipated. Afterall, love is a language and learning to speak it fluently is one of the greatest gifts we can give.

Dr. Susan Murphy is a best-selling author, business consultant and speaker on relationships, conflict, leadership and goal-achievement. Her newest book, Leading Successful Teams, is out now. Other books include LifeQ and In The Company of Women. She can be reached at Susan@DrSusanMurphy.com or visit DrSusanMurphy.com.