Times are tough and the rawness of reality can be both cruel and surreal. With the uncomfortable dysfunction of the present and our unknown future, we have come to realize something needs to change, transform and transcend. It cannot go back to the way it was, as the way it was lends itself to why we are here in the first place.

During these past few months, we have seen a lot of hate, hurt and resentment stemming from the past; from generations and ancestors that preceded us. Clearly these feelings and experiences have not been healed and are showing up in our current life experiences today. This will influence and impact our future if we are not cognizant of what we, as individuals, are doing to impact our own life and those around us.

In times like these, using our voice thoughtfully and with intention is imperative. This is attained by going within, being quiet, listening to your heart and understanding the situation from the heart, not the mind.

The mind is where you form opinions based on what you perceive to be truth; however, you can deceive yourself by forming an opinion solely from the intellect. This is not about what we have been taught over the years of right or wrong, left or right, red or blue and black or white. When you are able to go deep within, you are getting to know yourself, accept yourself and transform yourself. Get clear on your values, your core beliefs and what you are really here to do and be.

Being able to articulate your thoughts and feelings will take courage, strength and a deep connection to your heart like you have never had before. By doing this, you will take responsibility and be accountable for your part in your life – and your outcomes.

If you are struggling with negative thoughts and behaviors, whether it is within yourself or from your outside world, I recommend a process I use with clients called Freeze-Frame from The HeartMath Solution: Proven Techniques for Developing Emotional Intelligence by Doc Childre and Howard Martin. This process helps individuals to practice effective communication from the heart by providing a major shift in perception to a more heartfelt place.

As Maya Angelou once said, “I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one. I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn. I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you make them feel.”

Being able to speak from a heart-centered space requires making a clear distinction between your thoughts (mind) and your feelings (also mind). Slow down, take a deep breath and ask your heart what it wants. You will then become very clear with what you really want to say, be or do.

Dipika is a Holistic Health and Lifestyle Coach who empowers clients to activate a balanced lifestyle of the mind, body and soul. She can be reached at [email protected] or www.loveyourlifehealthy.com. For information on Freeze-Frame visit www.HeartMath.org.